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Play Therapy, Expressive Arts Therapies, and Sandplay Therapy for Healing, Clarity, Deeper Self-Knowledge and Emotional Growth!
Open for Children, Adolescents and also Adults.
Individual or Group Sessions can be arranged.
Sessions take place at:
- Palm Village, Makati City, Metro Manila
- Buildabilities Therapy Center, 346-B Gorordo Avenue, Barangay Kamputhaw, Lahug, Cebu City
For inquiries and appointments, please email or text peachy at firstname.lastname@example.org or 0917-8553305.
Or, for Cebu, call Buildabilities at (032) 232-0681..
* Priscilla (Peachy) Fernando is a certified Clinical Psychologist with the Psychological Association of the Philippines (PAP) and a Board Member of the Philippine Association for Child and Play Therapy (Philplay).
Friday, April 3, 2009
Monday, March 16, 2009
I'd like to share this wonderful, life-enhancing post by "megatonlove." I first heard of using "gratitude stones" on "the secret", but megatonlove's way is so beautiful and rich and is sure to make anyone's day.
i can't wait to make my own bowl of "special stuff"!
Megatonlove: Gratitude Walks.
Friday, March 6, 2009
My cousin Rachel and her daughter, Sabine, got to be part of this heartwarming video about Down's Syndrome in our world today! (they're the mom and little girl in a flowered dress at the park)
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
From PBS Wide Angle/Focal Point, this video talks about art therapy and its use in a rehabilitation center in Saudi Arabia, where counseling, art therapy and religious re-education are being used to reform militant jihadists.
Thursday, December 11, 2008
I Will Not Die an Unlived Life
by Dawna Markova
I will not die an unlived life
I will not live in fear of falling
Or of catching fire
I choose to inhabit my days
To allow my living to open me
Making me less afraid
To loosen my heart
So that it becomes a wing, a torch, a promise
I choose to risk my significance.
To live so that that which comes to me as seed
Goes to the next as blossom
And that which comes to me as blossom
Goes on as fruit.
photo finding love by Inkblots at Flickr
Saw a very sad young lady today. (Let's call her Nina.)
Stuck in a dead-end exhausting job, with very good pay, but very little life.
She could not get her eyes off a small figurine of a skeleton, sitting beside a tombstone, among some sandplay miniatures lying in a tray.
She said, "This is me. This is me, in this dead-end life. It's like i exist, but i'm not alive. It's like i'm alive, but i'm not living. If this is all that life is about, I'd rather be dead."
Funny how our clients trigger our own processes, stimulate us to think... Just at the same moment that we ask them...
What do you want?
What makes you happy?
If you could choose what you would like to do for the rest of your life, what would it be?
What do you want to give to the world?
As i asked her these questions; as i explained to her about the "Unlived Life;"
As i explained that,
"We can really become very good at what we really like, and if we can become very good, then we have something to give to the world; because that is your gift; that is the best of who you are, and it is something that no one can do, better than you;"
As i saw her face light up to my words,
As i watched her beam when i said, "There is no limit to what you can do"...
I found myself listening,
And listening, intently.
And asking myself the same questions. And wondering at the answers. :)
I told her about Joseph Campbell.
I told her about "Follow your bliss."
"Follow your bliss" is not just an aimless wandering, i told her.
Because your "bliss" is your compass.
Your "bliss" is a good compass, because, deep inside, your bliss is who you really are.
Which brought me back to this blog, and the whole field of creative therapies, and how it just fascinates me no end, and how exploring it and chewing on it, collecting insights and experiences from kindred spirits and kindred places all over the world, fascinates me. Drives me.
I am in the middle of "driving" myself to complete an overdue writing job.
It is a big chore for me, because i am very distractible, and i can get bored after 10 minutes of technical writing. To be able to just sit and write, is a great big accomplishment for me.
So this morning, as i was getting dressed for the day, i was telling myself what i can and cannot do today.
"You will go nowhere near your blog."
"You will not research on anything today."
"You will not Google anything today."
But I had to check my email, and my Firefox was programmed to open the tabs i had open last night, and before i knew it, i had wandered into websites on writing as therapy. :) (Which i will post about when i finish my deadline!!!) So wandered a bit, then told myself, "This is as far as you go!", saved all the tabs into a bookmark folder, and dutifully went back to task.
But the little notes on "writing to find your life" had wandered into my heart.
Then, i saw Nina.
It helps that i just saw my mentor* the other day, and i was telling her, "I feel like i'm pushing this girl (another young girl, who's anxious about school) to force herself to do some things, even if she's not ready. " And Tita Honey said, "If it feels like it's going against something fundamental deep inside you, then don't do it."
Follow your bliss. :)
Where this obsession with researching and exploring the creative therapies will take me, I do not know.
I only know that it answers a deep need to understand, to make sense, to bring together and develop all my understanding about it, all my understanding about what a person is, and what he can be.
I only know that art is my language, that images and words evoke places and movements inside me, and that i need to keep going, keep learning, keep putting it all together.
And i will need to trust this voice,
Just as I told Nina to trust hers;
Just as i need to tell all my clients, to trust "that knowing place inside."
We are travellers, on a journey.
We are travellers, on a journey to the core of our beings,
Where exists life and the sun, and nourishment for everyone.
We journey together, just as we journey on our own.
Parallel journeys of joyous discovery. Parallel journeys to life.
We are all on a journey
To find ourselves,
To live who we really are.
To live the authentic life.
May the Heavens and all of nature smile on our journeys. :)
--- Read how other peoplehave followed their bliss at... Bliss Stories
*(My most wise and generous teacher, Dr. Ma. Lourdes Carandang, better known as "Tita Honey")
** photo "Broken Wings" by Inkblots at Flickr
Sunday, November 30, 2008
I found a wonderful site just on fun and play, especially, play for adults, and for everyone! It's called Deep Fun, and it's run by the resident "Fun Smith", Bernie DeKoven.
The following article, by Bernie, included in his page on "Pointless Games", shows just how play, especially silly, lighthearted play, can be a healing activity, especially for groups!
I'd really love to use it for one of the groups I belong to-- which has recently been going through a period of strained relationships -- SOON!
It's essentially based on the childhood game "A WHAT?" that i remember playing to the point of hysterics many times in high school. But here, Bernie has added a crazy twist!
Bernie calls this game...
"I give you a Glue Thing"
Following up on the Koosh experience, I managed to convince one of my favorite clients to agree to the vast expense of $5.95 per participant for what I hoped would prove to be yet another Kooshlike experience of finger-pleasing meditation.
I ordered a variety of Glue Things which were available at that time (but no longer) from Edmund's Scientific. (Similar sticky wonders are currently available from J. Rousek) These toys came in a variety of relatively "yucky" shapes like spiders and worms, and fall under the general classification of "icky toys." The catalog described them as: "Made of a soft, squishy, elastic compound with both liquid and solid properties, these amazing objects change shape in response to impact or shear forces, yet spring easily back to original form."
I waited for the first evening play session to introduce them to the group. This decision, to wait for the evening before distributing them, arose from that same mystical sphere of wisdom that purportedly protects fools and children.
Further, I started off by teaching the group how to play "A What?" -- one of my favorite games for engendering controlled mayhem. Everybody sits in a circle. They are each given an object (anything, really: a shoe, a set of keys, a piece of candy) and asked to give that object a name (any name, really: a Fred, a Pizza, a Furblick). Simultaneously, everyone turns to the person on the right, and says "I give you a...." (the .... being the name of the object). The people on the right then turn to the people on the left and say "a what?" This is repeated three times, and on the third time, everyone actually passes their objects, and the people on the right, must, upon receiving the object, say "Oh, a ...!" (the ... being whatever they think they actually heard the object being called. The goal, purportedly, is to pass all the objects completely around the circle, without changing the name originally ascribed to them. The actuality is that it is nothing short of miraculous when any of the objects retain their name.
After explaining the game, with great ceremony and serendipity, I gave everyone a Glue Thing. We made sounds of disgust and delight. We played. We laughed. We made it half-way around the circle and basically gave ourselves over to mass hysteria.
While I was introducing the next game, someone discovered yet another property of the Glue Thing. It turns out that if you throw it onto the ceiling, it actually sticks there for awhile. Within three minutes of this discovery, it began raining Glue Things.
In sum, we had spontaneously arrived at a new game, one that I hadn't planned for, one that brought the group together, and kept them together for the rest of the evening, and throughout the next day, until the very end of the two-day brainstorm, when somebody finally figured out how to remove the rest of the Glue Things from the ceiling.
(This work is licensed under a Creative Commons License.)
Monday, November 24, 2008
I've already featured Robin Atkins' "Beadlust" blog and "The Bead Journal Project" (BJP) before, but I just saw a new post and I can't stop raving about them. :)
This week, Robin featured on her blog three more members of The BJP, and I'd just like to show some snippets of their journal work...
First, Robin features Christy H, a mother and grandmother.
Her journal "entries" portray different aspects of her life, and I'm just fascinated at how they translate to beadwork, just like I would translate mine onto a sandtray, or crayons and pastels!Below is Christy H's February entry, "~ Memories & Dreams ~", which portrays relationships that claimed her heart in the past, and her heart dreams for the future...
This one, below, is entitled "~ Little Christy ~" and features a sea turtle, for her love of the sea and yellow/orange colors for the exuberance and joy of her childhood.
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Robin also featured Lunnette HH. She relates that she (Robin), Christy and Lunette get together nearly every Tuesday afternoon to stitch and bead, and "have the most wonderful, comfortable, quiet, appreciative and non-competitive relationship." Isn't that a wonderful description of a truly nourishing friendship?
Lunette's September journal entry features her extended family, with lots of subtle meanings to the way she's embellished the photos and her fabric selections...
In November, Lunette beaded and quilted a piece that honors her love for quilting and two of her quilting buddies...
If any of you like to sew, bead, or work in other ways with fabrics and stitching, this would be a great alternative to journaling with crayons and colored pencils!
Friday, November 21, 2008
Saturday, November 15, 2008
These quotes reflect Rogers' inherent respect for each person, for each individual's uniqueness, for the gifts that each one possesses, for each one's unique process, and most of all, for each person's inherent capacity for growth and healing.
"In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?"
That is why, in client-centered therapy, Rogers emphasized listening to the client, accepting the client where he/she is, and thus creating a climate in which the client can grow.
"It is the client who knows what hurts, what directions to go, what problems are crucial, what experiences have been deeply buried." --From On Becoming a Person, 1961
In so saying, Rogers inevitably encouraged self-acceptance-- acceptance of the client by the therapist, which in turn would help the client to eventually accept himself; but most of all, Rogers emphasized the therapist's own self-acceptance. This self-acceptance, this faith in the person, is at the core of Rogers' philosophy of healing and growth...
"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change."
Rogers, therefore, championed the journey, the process of life, as most important, more important than any longed-for goal. For him, it was the ongoing, ever-dynamic process that was most precious in this life...
"The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change."
Thus, for Rogers...
"The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination."
Let us continue this journey together...
I'd like to share here a blog that i stumbled onto recently. Robin Atkins is a bead artist who, in 1985, rediscovered a childhood fascination with beads, and very soon, "developed an incurable case of bead lust." Robin teaches, among other things, improvisational bead embroidery classes, and features her own improvisational beadwork in her blog, "Beadlust."
Stumbling onto her blog was a real revelation for me, because i had never before seen improvisational beadwork. One beautiful example of her honest and heart-ful sharing is her post on this work (see above), which she entitled "Love in Delicate Balance." In the post, she describes the difficult, "character-building" heart-work of love and marriage in times of pain and difficulty.
This post touched me and so many! (more than 33!) others, sparking such an outpouring of appreciation, validation, expressions of support and empathy, leading me to remember again a Carl Rogers phrase that my teacher, Dr. Honey Carandang, repeats to us often: "That which is most personal, is most universal."
Robin and her fellow bead artists contribute to a monthly "Bead Journal Project" (BJP), an online journal where each member contributes a personal beadwork "journal page" each month. The goal of each journal page is "to give an impression about each month, to journal our experiences and record our feelings in a visual way. Another important goal is to stretch our creative and technical limits."
A stroll through some of the journal members' personal pages has left me breathless! Such beauty is life, and life in art!
In another blog post (Bead Journal Project... If At First You Don't Succeed....), Robin displayed how she had turned several of her BJP pieces into "soul cards," of her beadwork, featuring the beadwork on one side, and a painted/stamped paper on the other side, with some personal notes. So wonderfully creative and soul-touching. Here are just two of her pieces:
Just so beautiful, beautiful, beautiful.
Thank you Robin, for such a beautiful sharing of life in art.
Perhaps one day we can get together our own online Creative Journal Pieces!
Let me know what you think!
Monday, November 10, 2008
This just came in the mail today...
For everyone looking for fun toys that can be used during therapy for your students and centers, you can visit POCKETFUL OF KIDS TOY VILLAGE at Unit A,15th floor Strata 2000 Building F. Ortigas Road, Ortigas Center, Pasig City, MM; landline 634-7888 and 634-2888.
They have a full range of alex toys, learning resources, educo, beleduc, melissa and doug, tatiri and smart toys. Items and books range from toddler to young adult, a must see especially for toy-lovers.
I haven't checked it out, but i'll let you know when i have. If any of you have seen/experienced it, do let us know what you thought!
ps. thank you to jayvee fernandez of "a bugged life" for these beautiful photos!
Check this out!!!
Just for inspiration...
A wonderful wonderful little sandtray room near a beach in San Francisco!
I just couldn't resist this blog post, and its description of this adorable little shed, with a sandtray room inside! And the sandtray room is just so clean, simple, and totally engaging.
This sandtray room is part of a place called "The Healing Arts Store" on Stinson Beach.
Check out the original post on the blog "Spirit in the City".
Sunday, November 9, 2008
Child Protection Unit Network
Date: November 12, 2008
Time: 8:30am to 4:30am
Venue: Philamlife Theater
Registration on-site: P2,000 (with references; no meals)
Early Bird Rate extended to 11 November 2008: P1,800 (with references; no meals)
Inquire at (632) 525-5555 local 7008 or (0917) 890 0445"
Students with ID: 50% Discount
Download flyer/registration form here
Free Introductory Lecture
By Debbie Hogan, M.S., C.S.F.T.
Therapist, Trainer, Coach
November 12, 2008
4:30pm to 6:30pm
In Touch Community Services
48 McKinley Rd. Forbes Park, Makati
Tel. 893-1893 or 810-6233
For those interested in training to be a Solution Focused Therapist, Practitioner or Coach
Solution Focused Brief Therapy is a goal-oriented, future-oriented, competency-based therapeutic approach developed by Steve de Shazer and Insoo Kim Berg. This model of counseling and consultation has been very successful in various settings and treatment centers as well as in the field of coaching. It is a model of short tem therapy that is highly applicable with the structure of EAP counseling.
Trainer: Debbie Hogan, Marriage & Family Therapist, Singapore
Debbie has a Master’s degree in Counseling with over 26 years of experience as a therapist and trainer. She has a Post-Graduate Diploma in Solution Focused Brief Therapy; is a Certified Solution Focused Therapist; and is an Approved Clinical Supervisor and Appointed Associate Examiner for the Canadian Council of Professional Certification (CCPC). She is also Board Certified in Professional Counseling with the American Psychotherapy Association
Debbie is the Program Director and co-founder of the Academy of Solution Focused Training in Singapore (http://www.sf-academy.com/) and conducts training in the Solution Focused Model in Singapore and Southeast Asia.
The Academy of Solution Focused Training is the only training company in Asia that is approved by the Canadian Council of Professional Certification (CCPC) to offer professional certification in the solution focused model.
Saturday, November 8, 2008
"Art-making involves a series of processes, from an inner image, impulse or subtle sensation to manipulation of materials and the completion of an entirely unique object. In this way art mimics life in many ways (physical, messy, unpredictable) and art-making is a form of play.
Art Therapists have tried many ways to describe how art therapy works.
Here are some components typically observed:
Art-making can provide the experience of resonance between an inner feeling and one’s depiction of it, of recognising oneself. The sense of ‘having made something’ of a bad experience, can itself be the beginning of a growing sense of agency and participation in both one’s illness, recovery from it and the creative and healing processes of life and the beginning of a growing self-esteem.
A sense of physical aliveness and re-connection as feelings are embodied in art-play, allowing a natural, childlike creativity to be brought to bear on painful experiences, experimentation to explore alternatives in art and everyday life.
The bringing together of pre- or un-conscious aspects of the self with the conscious, reasoning self, involving mind and body, matter and spirit, past and present, ‘inner adult and inner child’.
This has been likened to an alchemical process where a new state emerges from mingling aspects of the self, the art materials and the therapist’s witnessing presence.
Art making encourages a state of ‘reverie’ - relaxed absorption - where feelings, thoughts and perceptions outside our everyday thinking become accessible and can emerge as insight.
Despite the gravity of many conditions the art process itself, even when representing a negative experience, can be experienced as deeply relaxing, satisfying and positive.
Sharing with a therapist (who is also an artist), in a ‘public’ space, can be liberating from the strain of keeping painful experiences ‘private’ and hidden.
The rhythms and cycles involved in creative processes and the feelings associated with them can help us to develop appreciation of, and ways to work with, cycles and rhythms in our own lives and the rest of creation.
Exercising the imagination allows re-connection to deep dreams and life-aspirations as well as insight into deeply held fears, fantasies and negative self-images.
It is my view that Art Therapy often, if not always, involves transpersonal experience. Participation in creative processes in art therapy promotes an awareness of one’s profound interconnectedness with all of life and a deeper, broader sense of one’ self and one’s life.
It provides a context for the development of both mindfulness and meaningfulness."
If you have had this same experience with art in your own life, do send us your story by posting a comment!
Friday, November 7, 2008
To me, this song speaks, not only of the beauty of friendship, but the beauty of a relationship that respects, that holds sacred, and validates each other, that celebrates each one's uniqueness, and which is healing and growth-enhancing because it values the self of the other.
Of the song, David Epston writes:
"I wanted to end this with a song. This song was written and sung by Margarita Boom from Mexico. She did so at my request when narrative therapy was invited by the Cuban Psychiatric Association and Cuban Social Work Association to introduce narrative therapy to Cuba.... Margarita's song speaks to how we hoped to meet them and embodies for me the 'spirit' of narrative therapy- that 'loving eye' I referred to by which Michael looked to those he met through the course of his work and his life."
Brother of the Sun and of Time
Let me hold your story
and fill my hands
with new sensations
that I've never seen before
which have never existed
which I couldn't have understood
without your song
They bear your name
and trace out a road.
Let me take with me
a piece of our
and savour the warmth
a friend leaves behind.
Brother of the sun and of time
who cares what colour the wind is?
We are joined by the taste of a
Of being hand in hand
a small piece,
a bit of a world
where you are allowed
to walk at your own pace
to feel what you feel
and, although different,
to sing your own song
take your conscience
and leave taking with me
that although we are different
That the heart beats
to the same beat
but your form
creates a new rhythm
Let me learn your music
and enrich my world
with the look of your eyes
and to find in your soul
a new home.
Brother of the sun and of time
who cares what colour the wind is?
We are joined by the taste of a
(photo by Sir Mervs at flickr)
This amazing post by Joanne Vizzini, Ph.D, LCPC, NCC, on her website, Accessing Inner Voices, shows the inifinite potential of the creative arts in helping us all to access our inner self.
From Joanne Vizinni's Creative Arts Puppet Therapy:
"The experience of puppet therapy with adults has successfully provided a means to disarm client’s resistance in a quick and easy fashion. There seems to be a regression in the service of the ego which facilitates adult play.
The ability to quickly unmask one’s defenses allows the adult to reach core issues. Childhood issues and feelings can resurface readily. The therapeutic image of offering a hand up and out is germane in puppet therapy where the client’s healing is literally at the counselor’s fingertips. The puppets have allowed many of the clients with whom I have worked the freedom to disarm defenses. They become free to face their pain and joy as never before. Steinhardt (1994), a follower of Winnicott, concluded that puppets allow spontaneous symbolic emotional expression, which otherwise may not occur, within a protected framework. (p.205).
The experience of puppet therapy as described by my clients is innately spiritual. They cite a transformative factor as part of their experience. Amorin and Calvacante state, ".... we believe that within the play element dwells an ulterior meaning, something experienced as magical or transporting which surrounds the concreteness of play itself" (1992, p.153). As puppet therapy with adults unfolds, I sense the touch of the sacred. Inner voices are accessed. I remain in awe of the healing I have witnessed as a puppet therapist."
Although I myself have used puppetry in therapy with children, I feel I haven't yet really maximized its potentials. Here, Ms. Vizinni shares with us how it has worked magic even with adults!
Some of Dr. Vizzini's client's comments on the experience:
- When the puppet began to speak to me, I felt like I could tell her anything.
- I learned that I am okay as I am. Just like the puppet, I’m free to be me.
- I am able to access a piece of myself that I wasn’t able to touch; I’ll never have to hide again.
(ps. the puppet pictured here is from http://www.flickr.com/photos/stacymorsels/501261201/)